In a large bowl, combine the shredded chicken with BBQ sauce. Mix thoroughly until the chicken is well coated. Set aside.
In another bowl, mix the coleslaw mix with chopped cilantro, apple cider vinegar, sugar, salt, and pepper. Toss until the ingredients are evenly combined and the slaw is dressed.
Lay a tortilla flat on a clean surface. Start by placing a generous portion of the BBQ chicken mixture in the center of the tortilla.
Top the BBQ chicken with a scoop of the coleslaw mixture. Add a few slices of avocado and jalapeños if using.
Fold the sides of the tortilla inward and then roll from the bottom up to form a wrap, ensuring the filling is secure inside. Repeat with remaining tortillas and ingredients.
Optional: For added flavor, you can lightly grill each wrap in a pan over medium heat for 2-3 minutes on each side until golden and crispy.
Slice each wrap in half diagonally and serve with extra BBQ sauce on the side for dipping.